Keep your plans to yourself

by Wanjiku Wanderi - Jorgensen February 7, 2014 4 comments

Did you know that people who talk about their intentions, goals, plans, ideas, are less likely to make them happen? I have experienced this. The moment I announce a plan, a premature sense of achievement overcomes and demotivates me. But when I shut up and (drive) do it, the results surprise me. Isn’t it natural to let people know what you are up to?

Well, that is the first social reaction, conversely though, talking satisfies the brain enough to neglect taking action (satisfactorily) on the intended pursuit. So, next time you (and me) want to announce our intentions, think about this and keep them private (or long enough until they are set into motion and the results are within sight).

You do not need to convince others that you can make it, not when there are so many naysayers willing to plant doubt into your mind. Furthermore, actions speak louder than words, right?

According to Derek Shivers, “… you could resist the temptation to announce your goal. You can delay the gratification that the social acknowledgment brings, and you can understand that your mind mistakes the talking for the doing. But if you do need to talk about something, you can state it in a way that gives you no satisfaction, such as, “I really want to run this marathon, so I need to train five times a week and kick my ass if I don’t, okay?”

 

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Linda Tinah February 7, 2014 at 11:50 pm

Interestingly true.

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Wanjiku Wanderi - Jørgensen February 8, 2014 at 12:03 am

This is a pitfall that I try to avoid as much as possible! 🙁

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Christine Oketch February 8, 2014 at 12:19 am

This is so true. I keep telling my partner that tomorrow after work I will do this and that, but I do find myself not doing it.

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Agnes Kaveza February 10, 2014 at 2:01 pm

daaanggg.!!!!! perfect timing!!

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